This year I’ve thought a lot about love, tried to sense what it is, wondered about it, opened up to love and lived in love. I’ve been amazed by this enormous, healing power, the force of life that runs in all of us. I have given myself to love and trusted that love carries.
Last summer we got a new family member, Zhen, a tiny puppy who opened up hearts just by existing. Zhen’s arrival in our lives also brought an example of unconditional love; a love without demands. A love that doesn’t need to be hidden, covered or tamed. What if we could always love as unconditionally, as freely, without fear or limit, as when we love a puppy?
Not long ago, when I went through my old notebooks, I found this quote by Jan-Philipp Sendker. A quote that I find to be a valuable reminder to all of us, a reminder about how many colours love has, how powerful it is, how accepting it is if we just open up to it. If we allow love in all its forms.
“We wish to be loved as we ourselves would love. Any other way makes as uncomfortable. We respond with doubt and suspicion. We misinterpret the signs. We do not understand the language. We accuse. We assert that the other person does not love us. But perhaps he merely loves us in some idiosyncratic way that we fail to recognize.”
― Jan-Philipp Sendker, The Art of Hearing Heartbeats
With this quote in mind I’ve been asking myself, how do I love? What kind of love do I expect and need, and do I allow any other kind of love in my life? Do I even notice the other expressions of love that are constant in my life, do I give them space if they don’t echo my image of love?
Thinking about this I feel a sudden joy, relief within me. As if all of me would sigh in relief when realizing how much love there is around me. I realize how gently I face the world when I see all the love in it, when I see love’s magnitude and force. My expectations fall out and instead of them, I find myself standing with open arms, with gratitude and a lot of love towards life.
To me, love is the origin of life, the power of life, where we come from. To me, love is a great power that keeps our planet alive. And loving someone else is loving yourself, it’s loving the world, it’s loving life. It’s allowing life, in all its colours.
How does your love look, what kind of love are you expecting, hoping and needing? Do you allow love in its different forms? Do you open up and surrender to love?
Maybe this Christmas, when we meet our loved ones we can with an open heart see their love, no matter what form it comes in, and accept that love. Freely and without conditions, like a newborn puppy.